"The 90 /10 Principle"
by Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle.
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example:
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.
You have no control over what just what happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15- minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D.
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It will change your life.
"Sa FX at Tryke"
Kuha ang mga ito kagabi habang sakay ako ng FX at tricycle pauwi sa amin. Mga alas-diyes na ng gabi. Karamihan sa mga kuha, madilim, kaya kelangan pang i-adjust sa MS Office Picture Manager (walang Adobe Photoshop dito sa amin). Malikot rin ang mga kuha, dahil baku-baku ang daan at nung minsan, nataon pa sa humps. Hehe. Masayang kumuha habang nagbibiyahe at gabi, dahil hindi mo masasabi kung anong kalalabasan. Minsan ayos, kadalasan hindi...pero ganun pa man, enjoy ka :) Ingat lang, dahil baka mahulog ang kamera.
Kuha ang mga ito kagabi habang sakay ako ng FX at tricycle pauwi sa amin. Mga alas-diyes na ng gabi. Karamihan sa mga kuha, madilim, kaya kelangan pang i-adjust sa MS Office Picture Manager (walang Adobe Photoshop dito sa amin). Malikot rin ang mga kuha, dahil baku-baku ang daan at nung minsan, nataon pa sa humps. Hehe. Masayang kumuha habang nagbibiyahe at gabi, dahil hindi mo masasabi kung anong kalalabasan. Minsan ayos, kadalasan hindi...pero ganun pa man, enjoy ka :) Ingat lang, dahil baka mahulog ang kamera.
"I am very fond of photography."
Kung si Howard Hughes ay mahilig sa aviation, ako naman sa photography. I take pictures of people, things, places -- anything that I find interesting or beautiful.
Hindi naman mahirap to find beauty in the everyday or the ordinary. I guess you just have to look closer and let the object or the view connect with you in anyway possible. I believe that the world around us can change us, if only we would take the time to look closer and to be silent, to listen. Whenever i feel changed, that's when i take out my camera and take photos. Siguro, gusto kong laging maalala ang sandaling iyon.
I take snapshots of the little things that make up my everyday, not just the milestones in our lives -- the towels i use to dry my hair, the cup of coffee i drink in the morning, the curtain as it sways, my mother as she sleeps beside me, the food i eat or the friend sitting next to me...anything and anyone that in someway i find beautiful.
If you are interested to view my favorite photos, you may visit my online "Favorites" album here. I will try to upload a photo once a week and share them with you. Sana you'd also be able to appreciate them as I do.
Kung si Howard Hughes ay mahilig sa aviation, ako naman sa photography. I take pictures of people, things, places -- anything that I find interesting or beautiful.
Hindi naman mahirap to find beauty in the everyday or the ordinary. I guess you just have to look closer and let the object or the view connect with you in anyway possible. I believe that the world around us can change us, if only we would take the time to look closer and to be silent, to listen. Whenever i feel changed, that's when i take out my camera and take photos. Siguro, gusto kong laging maalala ang sandaling iyon.
I take snapshots of the little things that make up my everyday, not just the milestones in our lives -- the towels i use to dry my hair, the cup of coffee i drink in the morning, the curtain as it sways, my mother as she sleeps beside me, the food i eat or the friend sitting next to me...anything and anyone that in someway i find beautiful.
If you are interested to view my favorite photos, you may visit my online "Favorites" album here. I will try to upload a photo once a week and share them with you. Sana you'd also be able to appreciate them as I do.
"Hands-On Manila"
Not many years ago, I heard about this organization which offers anyone that is willing, regardless of profession, various opportunities to help those who are in need. I immediately became interested and looked for ways in which I could join the group. Despite this fervent desire, it took a while for me to find my way to signing up as one of the volunteers -- I didn't know anyone kasi who was a volunteer himself and work became toxic as well so there was no spare time at all... Anyway, I finally discovered how easy it was to be a volunteer through their website, www.handsonmla.org, which I learned about through the electronic Papemelroti newsletter. Yes, I have signed up for the Papemelroti newsletter and yes, that's the store where you buy your recycled stationeries...
Eto na nga, to formally introduce this organization, here's a text which I copied from the Hands-On Manila Yahoo! Groups Home Page:
Hands On Manila Foundation, Inc. is a non-profit, non-sectarian, private organization founded in 2001. We offer flexible volunteer opportunities to anyone who has a few hours to spare. We recruit, coordinate, and educate volunteers in the different service projects involving children's welfare, environment, housing, education, disabled, etc.
To join, one must attend an orientation that is held monthly. There's an orientation coming up this June 28, 6-7PM at Powerbooks Megamall. For details, you can call 843-7044 or 843-5231. After that, you would have to choose a project of your choice -- there's building a house, caring for the street children or the elders, caring for Zoo animals, volunteering for various museums and libraries, teaching computers to kids that are around 7 to 15 years old....madami, there's one that should fit your personality :) Tapos nyan, you have to call the organizer and sign your name up then lastly, you have to SHOW UP!
This weekend, I am planning to volunteer for the Museo Brigade. In this project, volunteers are to chip in and help out in the Museo Pambata operations as tour guides, ushers, ticket counter sellers, marshals and of course sort out books in the Resource Library. Sounds boring? Not for me :)
Not many years ago, I heard about this organization which offers anyone that is willing, regardless of profession, various opportunities to help those who are in need. I immediately became interested and looked for ways in which I could join the group. Despite this fervent desire, it took a while for me to find my way to signing up as one of the volunteers -- I didn't know anyone kasi who was a volunteer himself and work became toxic as well so there was no spare time at all... Anyway, I finally discovered how easy it was to be a volunteer through their website, www.handsonmla.org, which I learned about through the electronic Papemelroti newsletter. Yes, I have signed up for the Papemelroti newsletter and yes, that's the store where you buy your recycled stationeries...
Eto na nga, to formally introduce this organization, here's a text which I copied from the Hands-On Manila Yahoo! Groups Home Page:
Hands On Manila Foundation, Inc. is a non-profit, non-sectarian, private organization founded in 2001. We offer flexible volunteer opportunities to anyone who has a few hours to spare. We recruit, coordinate, and educate volunteers in the different service projects involving children's welfare, environment, housing, education, disabled, etc.
To join, one must attend an orientation that is held monthly. There's an orientation coming up this June 28, 6-7PM at Powerbooks Megamall. For details, you can call 843-7044 or 843-5231. After that, you would have to choose a project of your choice -- there's building a house, caring for the street children or the elders, caring for Zoo animals, volunteering for various museums and libraries, teaching computers to kids that are around 7 to 15 years old....madami, there's one that should fit your personality :) Tapos nyan, you have to call the organizer and sign your name up then lastly, you have to SHOW UP!
This weekend, I am planning to volunteer for the Museo Brigade. In this project, volunteers are to chip in and help out in the Museo Pambata operations as tour guides, ushers, ticket counter sellers, marshals and of course sort out books in the Resource Library. Sounds boring? Not for me :)
"Rebonded!"
So... after giving much thought into it, i finally decided to have my hair rebonded. The work was done last weekend in a salon near Fiesta Carnival in Cubao and it cost me Php 1600, five hours of sitting and having to watch local TV shows, head and scalp aches from all the pulling and the hair ironing! Sakit pala gawain nito! Sana naman worth it lahat... ano sa palagay nyo? *wink
So... after giving much thought into it, i finally decided to have my hair rebonded. The work was done last weekend in a salon near Fiesta Carnival in Cubao and it cost me Php 1600, five hours of sitting and having to watch local TV shows, head and scalp aches from all the pulling and the hair ironing! Sakit pala gawain nito! Sana naman worth it lahat... ano sa palagay nyo? *wink
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